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1. My wife died September 18 2022 and I find myself talking to her sometimes not in front of people. But at home is that a normal thing for a person to do?

2. Truth is, YOU WILL NEVERRRRRRRR know how it feels until it happens to you!!!

3. Ty –

4. I don’t want to live anymore.

5. I'm having a really hard time and I was told today that my "remembering" my boyfriend (who passed away 5 months ago, after 4 years together) – is causing them to relive the pain.

   To me, it feels like they're sweeping him under the rug.

   To be honest, his family has never really liked me. But sharing photos and memories on MY OWN SOCIAL MEDIA, has caused them to delete me from HIS?

   3 Years ago, we lost our pregnancy. 5 months ago, the day after Mother's Day, in which we talked about losing our baby, he passed away. In the following 2 months I lost two uncle's, one of which I was close to.

   I know losing people is a part of life… But I can't seem to move beyond all of this grief. I feel stuck, and after today, I feel like I have no one I can even talk to now…

6. Omg I did that with my brothers ashes. 😭 good to know I'm not the only one. 😆😅🤣

7. Thank you so much Nora, you are such an inspiration. You have helped me as a counsellor to understand the death of a spouse in a very new amazing light. You are such a blessing.

8. I lost my fiancé two months ago in a terrible car crash. It’s been so unbelievably hard, but I am trying my best everyday to keep moving forward, if not for myself, for him. This made me feel a little bit better, so thank you. I really needed to hear this.

9. This should be on a comedy show not a Ted talk

10. It’s been almost a year since my sweet husband died after 4 1/2yrs of chemo and general decline. I could see him slipping away slowly in front of me, both of us isolated inside because of the pandemic. I am still not okay. It comes suddenly sometimes. When it’s especially hard, I stuff a pillow in my husband’s shirt and hang onto it in bed. When he was dying, I couldn’t lay with him because it hurt him too much. After he died, I had the nurse help me move him over in the hospital bed, and I just lay with him in the dark for an hour. There was no breath, no heartbeat, but he was warm, and I just took in his familiar smell and shape and just lay there not thinking of anything but him in that moment. I’m so glad I did I that.❤

11. Everyone grieves differently. Imagine how the "current husband" feels.

12. The problem with that is what's in that ⚱️ isn't only your loved one. We don't know what they put in there.

13. Move on isn't negative, if you have faith that you'll see them again. They are certain not grieving us. We gotta make it here on Earth. Erin belonged to God.

14. Folks get a second husband when others don't have a first. All the time I hear this.

15. Depends on how you connect the dots and got a spiritual understanding. Lost a pregnancy and nine months later the 33 year old father. See them together and see how God saved you from a mess. We gotta turn things around.

16. Thank you for this.
    That’s all I wanted to say.

17. 🙏

18. Such. Powerful Ted talk. I laughed and I cried. Bless her ❤️

19. When you talked about licking your hands clean of his ashes, that’s reminiscent of my dad keeping the bloody water from washing his feet, more than a week after my brother took his own life. The day after it happened we found a tooth in the yard and kept it, the crews had to come back that morning to keep cleaning and, we found a big piece with hair that we cut off and kept. So much fucked up stuff that’s been so hard, so far impossible to process.

20. I grieve my granddaughters ……they were taken away.
    Not died however the grief is just as deep. Lost my son too. He died.
    Life has been a life of loss.

21. 💝💝

22. Thank you ! You sound just like me! Loss is so hard to deal with. Thank you.

23. We emptied My Partners ashes at Stonehenge, his mum did it because she was his mum and loved him. I adored him. I felt exactly how you spoke…

24. In England we say mezsha if that makes sense 😎 I lost my grandparents my partner my first pregnancy and my dad then my second partner within 2 years. I was 26

25. I also lost my Mom within months after husband left for another young woman

26. I can relate to this even though my husband didn't die. After 40 years of marriage he just left. It has been 2 years and I still feel grief.

27. i know im incredibly late to this but out of all of the TED talks I've seen, this is by far the most real and impactful one I've seen. Thank you for sharing.

28. “Strands to the same thread”

29. Saw you live last night-thank you helping those of us touched by grief live with it – and live deeper and more honestly

30. I'm also fun. 🫠🤦‍♀️😭

31. Save your life more grief

32. I am medium that helps people move through their grief by connecting them to their loved ones (both people and pets) who continue living in the Spirit world. I have lost loved ones and I know the power of reunion through mediumship is not a cure for grief, but provides profound comfort and support in each individual's healing process. Time is on your side. Don't give up!

33. I have "lost" loved ones, but this does not really feel like a loss to me, because I believe I will see them again.
    What I seem to be struggeling much more with are:
    -that I have lost/wasted a lot of time
    -that I have lost a lot of money
    Because these losses feel permanent to me, I can never go back in time and re-live the life I would have wanted. These losses, these feel permanent, hopelessly lost for ever- but the loss of my loved ones, i feel like, are not forever, yes those losses hurt as well but the other ones somehow much more in the long run.

34. She has explained it perfectly. I lost my only Beautiful Son & some people have turned their backs on me. The Pain and Loss is truly Indescribable…..😢😭
    I Miss you Erek my sweet Babe….🙇‍♀️💙💜

35. Move on vs. Move forward. Brilliant. Simply brilliant.

36. Everyone will go through it,but at the time you think why me but everyone will go though it eventually,and we think how will they deal with it,that is the question

37. I lost my darling girl to suicide in August. I'm not minimizing anyone's loss through physical illness, but at least you got the chance to say goodbye and not blame yourself for every bad moment you had with them. Guilt does not help with the grieving process. Finding them on the dining room floor with a big hole in their head, knowing you should've been there stays with you too

38. IN THE LAST 8 YEARS I'VE LOST A 10-YEAR-OLD GRANDDAUGHTER AND MY HUSBAND. OF 34 YEARS & (2) TWO DAUGHTERS, AND I CAN'T SEEM TO GET OFF THIS NIGHTMARE ROLLERCOASTER OF GRIEVING, I CONSTANTLY THINK ABOUT DEATH!… MY PRESENT EMOTION IS ANGER BORDERING ON BLINDING RAGE I NEED HELP!

39. 🙏 thank you, hearing this has helped me so much.

40. I'm grieving 😔🥺 my sister was my soulmate.

41. I’m not going through a death grief but this heartbreak that I’m feeling now feels like it. I get random washes of heartbreak that completely encapsulates me and I’m trying to let go because the situation has left me with post trauma syndrome. What I think hurts the most is the betrayal, the “how could you” and it messes me up sometimes because I truly want to know how to overcome this feeling. This isn’t my first time being hurt in such a way but it’s the first time I anticipated it because their actions weren’t matching their words and when I broke it off and let the other woman have him I feel like I made the biggest mistake ever but I know I didn’t because love isn’t a mistake and knowing that I knew how to cater to that person and but not have it in return was a rescue for me. I’m starting my life all over new approach new mental, and who is allowed. I lost myself in that situation and I want to rediscover who I am

42. I literally lost my brother on Sept 3rd 2022.

43. This may not seem like a big deal but I’m still crying, my 2 week old bunny I rescued from death the other day is passing. His brother just sat by him and hugged onto him. Honestly they where the best thing to ever happen to me and im glad I got this chance to meet such sweet bunnies. Their names are Spot, and Bauer. Spot is the one passing. 😔

44. That lady is very talented and spot on spot on what you said to go lifetime have experience I hope so many thousands of people thank you so much from the bottom of my heart

45. This helped me a lot,thank you !

46. Thank you for such insight. I have been struggling since my wife died last year and a friend just recommended this to me. Our world often doesn't feel like it's spinning anymore when we lose someone we love so much, but this has really helped me, especially the thought that my wife is present in all that I do because her life, love, and death have played such a part in making me the person I now am.

47. I had a best friend through childhood who we had since grown apart take his own life on Monday… I’m currently away on a work trip and when my mum called me too tell me so much went through my mind. Confusion and sadness mostly. I was at work, I work in direct sales so I’m face to face with people all day, I kept working for 3 hours and put on a smile to finish my day on the result that I wanted. I couldn’t replicate it today though. This person isn’t someone I’ve been close with in probably 9 or 10 years but I’m still stricken by shock and regret. I saw him 6 months ago while I was working as a pizza delivery driver, we spoke but I kind of brushed him off cause I was in my own head at the time and in a rush. I felt bad afterward and thought about sending him a message to hang out. I never did. I’m so conflicted, he’s still a close family friend and his parents did a lot for my mum when my dad left and I had to move out, I was thinking about him yesterday morning before I knew what had happened, at that point he had already left us. It was a small thing that triggered a memory from when we were kids. I can’t believe I never got to say goodbye, I can’t believe he took his own life. He probably felt so alone, like no one cared yet here I am constantly thinking about him. He’s only a month younger than me, he was 19, his whole life ahead of him. RIP Baker.